Rabbi Irwin Kula says there are many ways to meditate, but all of them have to do with not resisting your feelings. Through meditation, you can observe these feeling; you discover the self. This is your first choice in the healing process—you make the choice to meditate. You cannot change the past, but you can own the present moment.

When you begin to meditate, make a commitment to continue for three months. Set aside ten to fifteen minutes each day, and choose a comfortable place for your meditation. Take seven to ten deep breaths, and allow the feeling of guilt (or whatever you're feeling) to come to mind. Breathe into it, and feel where you feel it in your body — your neck, your shoulders, your heart. The key result is that you will begin to realize that you are not the feeling, you're having the feeling.

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