Q: I'm a 34-year-old married mother of two. We live with my grandmother in the home where I was raised. She got sick after my husband and I wed, and I thought it would be wrong to leave her; we planned to move out once she recovered. Long story short, we're still here. Grandma is now 86 and doesn't want to go to an assisted living facility. The house, which she owns in full, is too small to accommodate everyone comfortably. In 10 years, we've watched area home prices more than double—now I don't think we can afford a new house. Should we remodel or sell? Also, Grandma wants to put the property in my name so the kids and I will always have a roof over our heads. I've heard that if she gifts it to me, I won't have to pay taxes on it. What's the best plan here?

A: First I want to tell you how much I love that you're living with your grandmother. You are giving your children an incredibly rich experience all the money in the world could never buy.

I don't want Grandma to give you the house right now. Tax-wise, it's far better to inherit it. (To ensure that the house goes to you as intended, she needs a revocable trust with an incapacity clause naming you as the successor trustee.) 

When you're gifted property, you take on the giftor's cost basis—what someone paid for an asset. In terms of a home, it also includes any upgrades. The IRS cares about your cost basis because the difference between that and what you sell something for (minus any exemptions) is taxable. Let's say your grandma bought her house ages ago for $25,000. Assuming she made no improvements, her cost basis would be $25,000. If she gives you the home now and you then sell it for $625,000, you'll pay a huge amount in taxes. But if you inherit it, your cost basis would be its value at that time. So if the property is valued at $625,000 when Grandma dies and that's when you sell it, you would not have any tax liability.

Moving isn't the answer. There's great comfort for older people in remaining in familiar surroundings, so I'd recommend staying put and adding on.

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From the April 2007 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine

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