According to Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola, authors of the book 'It's Just a F***ing Date,' too many relationships today can be described as 'tweet, tweet, sleep over, break up.' But does that mean you're really dating? Watch to find out why Greg and Amiira say many women speed through the dating process to get clarity on the status of their relationships, lowering their standards along the way.
Melanie, Skyping in from Canada, says first dates make her nervous because she's afraid she'll blow it with someone who could be 'the one.' Watch as dating experts Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola explain how to be yourself on a first date. Plus, find out why many women don't realize how much power they have on a date.
According to Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola, authors of the book 'It's Just a F***ing Date,' dating in the digital age can make it easier to meet people but more difficult to actually communicate. Find out why Greg says texting allows men to hide behind their fear of rejection, and get Amiira's advice for women who can't stand talking over text.
An audience member in the 'Oprah's Lifeclass' Social Lab considers herself old-fashioned and wants to know whether she should ask a man out on a date? Watch as dating expert Amiira Ruotola gives her the script any woman can use to prompt someone to ask her out on his own.
Are you a perfectionist? Brene Brown says this is one of the three main ways people protect themselves from getting hurt. Watch as Brene explains why perfectionism is really just a form of armor. Plus, find out how this trait is connected to shame and fear.
If you turn to food, gossip or social media when you're feeling vulnerable, Brene Brown says, you may be numbing yourself to keep from getting hurt. Another type of armor people use, she says, is 'dress-rehearsing tragedy' when things are going well, a mood she calls 'foreboding joy.' Find out why Brene says joy is the most vulnerable emotion people experience.
If you're caught in a shame spiral, Brene Brown says, there are three things you can start doing today to break the cycle: talking to yourself like you talk to someone you love, reaching out to someone you trust, and telling your story. Watch as Brene shares the number one antidote to shame.
Why does Brene Brown always wear blue jeans or a denim jacket? Pockets, she says. Brene fills these pockets with permission slips she's written to herself, which say things like, "You have permission to be completely uncool." Watch as she explains how our culture of disengagement, cynicism and emphasis on "cool" act as armor when in a vulnerable state.
Where does your pool of shame come from? Brene Brown says many families pass down prerequisites for worthiness, whether purposefully and unintentionally. Watch as Brene and Oprah discuss the definition of wholeheartedness and worthiness.
If you're ready to enter 'the arena' and start living bravely, Brene Brown says, you need two things: 'somebody who's willing to pick you up and dust you off when you get your butt kicked ... and absolute clarity of values.' Watch as Brene explains why you can't have both courage and comfort.