Dwayne is a father who walked away from his family because he didn't feel he was the man he wanted to be for them. To make amends, Iyanla Vanzant says he needs to stop living in his head and connect with his heart. Watch as Iyanla uses a powerful exercise to help Dwayne reconcile his situation.
During a special two-hour 'Oprah's Lifeclass,' Iyanla meets a fatherless son who isn't sure he wants a relationship with his father; however, he is a hundred percent sure he wants a relationship with his ideal vision of that man. Watch to find out why Iyanla says not to let the heartbreak of a little boy drive present-day relationships.
Bobby grew up on the West Side of Chicago without a father. While his mother worked, Bobby says, he got into drugs, became involved with gangs and eventually ended up in prison. Looking back, Bobby believes having a father would have made a big difference in his life. Iyanla has one important lesson for Bobby and other fatherless sons: 'You didn't do anything wrong.' Watch as Iyanla explains why men like Bobby must stop telling themselves the what-if stories about how their lives would have been different with a father.
Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah are speaking to an audience of 150 men who grew up without fathers. One man says he became a sudden father on Christmas, when his 17-year-old nephew was delivered to his door with his bed, his clothes and $10. Now that he's a father, he wants to know if he's raising his nephew right. Find out what Iyanla has to say about raising sons when a man has never had a father.
Kyle grew up not knowing who his father was. When he finally met him, while attending college, Kyle says, his father didn't want anything to do with him. Since then, he says, his relationships with other people have been affected, and he feels that he's not "good enough." Watch what happens when Iyanla asks Kyle what he wants his father to know about him, and what he wants his father to know about how he broke Kyle's heart.
Why do men leave their children? Oprah wanted to hear from a father who admits to walking away from his. Watch as an audience member named Dwayne explains why he stayed away because he wasn't the man he wanted to be for them. Plus, see how Dwayne helps a fatherless son find some peace.
Justin's father is now back in his life, and he is trying to determine how much of a relationship he wants with him. His question for Iyanla and Oprah now is this: If he doesn't want a relationship with his father, is it fair to his children to cut those ties as well? Find out why Iyanla says he can't control the relationships other people have. Plus, watch what happens when Iyanla walks Justin through a traumatic memory and helps him realize he is no longer a helpless child.
It's the topic Iyanla Vanzant says she's most wanted to tackle on 'Oprah's Lifeclass.' According to the U.S. Census Bureau, more than 24 million children are living in homes without their biological fathers. Now, with the help of Roland Warren from the National Fatherhood Initiative, Oprah and Iyanla are starting a national conversation. Watch to find out the role a father should play in his son's life, and hear why Roland says fatherless sons are left with a 'hole in their soul the size of their father.'
For years, Mandisa says, she's tried to be nice to her mean-girl friends, but they continue to put her down and call her names. Watch as Dr. Phil offers advice to Mandisa on breaking free from these toxic relationships. Plus, find out how Mandisa can take back her power by giving herself permission to be her own best friend.
Cutting ties with a toxic friend, family member or partner is easier said than done. Dr. Phil stresses the importance of trusting your instincts about the people in your life. If you're tempted to reunite with an old flame, Dr. Phil has some advice for you. Find out if you miss your ex or if you're missing the person you wish he or she had been.