Kidnapped by the Kids
Where Are They Now? Webb Family Update
Posted: Mon 04/11/2011 09:00 PM
After being Kidnapped by the Kids, we caught up with Shannon Webb and her family to check in on their progress since being on the show.
1. Did you know before the 'kidnapping' that your kids and husband were feeling that you worked too much?
Before the kidnapping, I knew the kids and Greg thought that I worked too much, but I just felt like it was something they needed to learn to deal with and eventually they'd just be ok with it. I figured they knew I was working so much out of my love for them.
2. What went through your head when Tayler told you that you were being "kidnapped"? Did you believe it?
When Tayler told me I was being kidnapped, I was in disbelief, thinking why would you need to kidnap me? I felt like if things were that bad with me working, she could've just talked to me about it and a little part of me was like "You're not taking me anywhere. I've got to get to work and hey why aren't you in school?"
3. At what point were you able to forget about work and just enjoy the experience?
I was finally able to forget about work and really let myself start enjoying the experience after Lo-Lo caught the first fish. It was like that fish was such a huge part of the whole experience. I am a control freak. I don't do anything that I don't want to do and the truth is, I REALLY DID NOT want to fish. Fish freak me out, but I was forced to do it and when I grabbed that fish, even though it was with a towel, and threw it back in to the ocean, it was like all of the rules and pressure I put on myself were thrown away with it. I heard my girls cracking up and their laughter hit my heart in a way that brought me back to the fun times we used to have all the time.
4. How has your schedule changed since the show (if it has)?
Since the show, I haven't been able to make huge changes in my schedule, but I have made little changes here and there, where I can. I leave work an hour earlier than I did before and I don't longshore unless I absolutely have to. When I get home, I am aware of the kids need to have time with me so I make sure not to let myself go in to the "tune out" zone. I really listen to them tell me about their days and ask them lots of questions. After they go to bed, I make it a point to sit with Greg for a bit and connect with him. I don't put anyone off till later, just figuring they'll understand that I am tired.
5. What did you learn from the experience?
I learned so much from this experience. It really has changed me and my family for the better. I learned that being a mom doesn't have to mean you have to be uptight and stressed about the future all the time. You really need to let go of the control a little bit and enjoy the moment that you are in. Being on the show made me realize how my family needs me to show my love to them. They are my whole world and I thought I was showing them how much I loved them by working so much to give them all the things life has to offer, but the show taught me that all they really want from me, to feel loved, is for me to be a part of their lives.
6. What would you say to other working moms who are going through the same work/family balance struggle?
If I could sit down and talk to other working moms, I would tell them to be proud of themselves for all that they do for their families. They are teaching their children a valuable lesson by going to work everyday, but don't forget to take the time to stop and ejoy what you are working for. As I have been writing this, Little Charlie has been peeking around the corner saying,"C'mon Mommy, C'mon! Play." The old me would've tuned her out until I was done and I would've lost that moment forever. A little part of her heart would've been crushed and eventually, she would've given up and left me alone. The new me stopped to remember how much I love her. So this short blog has taken me about an hour to write because we had an on and off game of "Chase Charlie till She Laughs so Hard She Falls Down". Even Tayler poked her head out from working on her mural to join in. So what I am trying to say is that work will always be work and there will always be more of it to do, but our children will only be little once. Don't miss out on really being a part of who they are because really they are amazing!