Super Soul Sunday
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Debbie Ford Reflects on Her Secret-Revealing Interview
Posted: Fri 02/17/2012 11:00 AM
Spiritual expert and best-selling author Debbie Ford doesn't just talk the talk about The Shadow Effect. She also walks the walk. On Sunday, February 19, at 11/10c, Debbie will share her greatest, darkest secret with Oprah in a no-holds-barred conversation. Here, Debbie shares what it was like to reveal the shadow she's been living with for more than a decade and what's it really means to have courage.
My conversation with Oprah was truly life-changing. I hadn't seen her for 11 years since I'd appeared on three episodes of The Oprah Show. When I got out of the car to walk down to the beautiful set on Oprah's estate, where they were filming our conversation, I was struck by the beauty of my surroundings. I heard Oprah's unmistakable voice calling out to me from down below: "Debbie! Debbie! It's been so long!" Her welcome opened my heart because I knew that if I was ever going to have a conversation like the one I'm going to have on Sunday, Oprah was really the only person I would have it with. I could feel what a privilege it was to share my secret with one of the most powerful women in the world.
As soon as I greeted her, we got seated for our interview. I found her presence powerful, grounded and joyous. Before I knew it, the director was telling everyone to be quiet and then said, "Action!" We began. Even though the conversation lasted an hour, it seemed like we were only getting started. It felt like only five minutes had passed. There was a timeless quality to the heart-to-heart I felt I was having with someone whom I knew deeply cared about me, my message and my work. I realized that is why there is no one like Oprah. It's what makes her Oprah Winfrey. She is such a phenomenal interviewer because the topics she explores mean so much to her own spirit and, by extension, to the spirits of those who learn from her.
When I was headed home after the conversation, I spoke with my assistant Julie about the healing power of sharing authentically with someone without them having to insert their will or their agenda. It happens a few times in a lifetime, and it happened with Oprah and me. It felt like a full-circle moment, since my initial appearances on The Oprah Show had brought so many changes to my life and my work. Even 11 years later, there isn't one workshop, seminar or retreat that goes by where someone doesn't say to me, "I saw you on Oprah, and I've wanted to meet you ever since." That's why the impact Oprah has on the world can't be quantified or measured.
In our conversation, Oprah and I talked a lot about courage, fear and denial. (As you'll see on Sunday, my fear shows up as denial.) Courage is actually the topic of my soon-to-be-released ninth book, Courage: Overcoming Fear and Igniting Self-Confidence. I shared with Oprah how vitally important it is for women to develop this muscle of courage, because when we have access to the courageous power inside, we are truly free to be our most magnificent, authentic selves. We can get over our resentments, shed the weight that we've been carrying around, open our eyes to what's true about our finances, or reignite the areas we feel passionless about in our lives.
Unfortunately, unless we're focused on building up our courage, which gives us our self-confidence and all that we need to make quantum change in our lives, the voice of fear will always take the lead inside our minds. We'll always be looking for all the reasons why we can't instead of being committed to "I can." Fear is the culprit that robs us of our greatest lives. And although it's mostly made up or a learned behavior from our past, almost everybody I've ever met in my life struggles with fear. Maybe you're just struggling with fear in one area. Maybe you're struggling with it in a few. It's imperative for us to identify our fear and to identify the voice that is running us.
When we can inspire ourselves, even by little courageous steps—like inviting a new friend or someone you've wanted to get together with to dinner and a movie, being a little risqué with your partner or getting a coach to work through an area of challenge for you—then you are on the way to an infinitely beautiful future.
So I invite you to begin this exploration of courage by answering these questions:
Watch Debbie and Oprah's interview on "Super Soul Sunday" this Sunday morning at 11/10c. Click here to pre-order your copy of Courage, available April 24, 2012.