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Posted: Thu 02/07/2013 02:14 PM
They've done dozens of shows together, but Oprah and Nate Berkus have never had a conversation like this. On "Super Soul Sunday," Nate talks to Oprah about coming out, the cancellation of his talk show and his new book, The Things That Matter.
In this sneak peek clip, Nate talks about sitting his father down and explaining to him that being gay is not a choice.
"The truth of the matter is... that being gay is the way that I was born," says Nate. "I believe this to the core of my being. I would never choose something to make my life complicated. I said, 'Dad, we're never going to have a relationship -- a real relationship -- unless you believe me and I know that you believe me and act accordingly.'"Keep watching above to find out more about that heart-to-heart conversation, then tune in Sunday.
Watch the first part of Oprah's interview with Nate Berkus Sunday, February 10, at 11 a.m. ET/PT on OWN. You can also join our worldwide simulcast on Oprah.com or Facebook.com/SuperSoulSunday.
Posted: Thu 02/07/2013 09:46 AM
This week, Nate Berkus is explaining why the things we surround ourselves at home aren't just objects—they're important ways to communicate the stories of our lives. Want to make your house truly a home? Start with Nate's quiz to discover your design style! Then, tune in at 11 a.m. ET/PT Sunday on OWN (or on Oprah.com or Facebook.com/SuperSoulSunday) for more with Nate.
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Posted: Sun 02/03/2013 02:00 PM
It's hard to believe, but The Twelve Tribes of Hattie is Ayana Mathis' first novel. Set in Philadelphia, this powerful book tells the story of Hattie, a strong complicated woman whose difficult life takes its toll on her and her children. "When I read it, the characters leapt from the pages, and I knew almost instantly that this would be our next book club selection," Oprah says.
Ayana grew up in Philadelphia, the daughter of a single mother who instilled a fierce love of reading in her. By the time she was 9, she was writing stories of her own. Eventually, her talent led her to the prestigious Iowa Writers' Workshop. It was there that she conceived and wrote The Twelve Tribes of Hattie
In an exclusive "Super Soul Sunday" interview, Ayana sits down with Oprah to talk about the novel that literally kept Oprah up at night. Watch clips from their conversation below!
Before she was a writer, Ayana was a reader. What was the first book Ayana loved as a child? Find out what classic she still can't get enough of. Plus, the book that moved Ayana to cry for nearly four hours when she read it as an adult:
The novel that became the second Oprah's Book Club 2.0 selection would never have been written without, as Ayana puts it, an "ugly cry crisis moment." Watch as Ayana explains how a difficult time at the acclaimed University of Iowa Writers' Workshop helped birth The Twelve Tribes of Hattie:
Oprah says that while reading The Twelve Tribes of Hattie, she found herself waking up in the middle of the night wondering what the characters of the book were doing, as if they were real people! So how did author Ayana Mathis create souls for each of her characters? Watch as Ayana explains her process and reveals whether she decides her characters' fates—or whether the characters do it themselves:
Posted: Fri 02/01/2013 12:00 PM
At the end of last year, "Super Soul Sunday" premiered a special hour of television: Oprah and Rainn Wilson Present SoulPancake. The special, which explored what love really means, was so nice we just had to air it twice! Tune in Sunday, February 3, at 1 p.m. ET/PT for a second helping of SoulPancake. Before then, watch a message from Rainn and see what others had to say about the show.
Posted: Fri 02/01/2013 08:00 AM
This Sunday, Oprah and Oprah's Book Club 2.0 author Ayana Mathis are launching an all-new season of "Super Soul Sunday." (Watch on OWN or on Oprah.com.) Today, The Twelve Tribes of Hattie author explores a few of the decisions so many of us confront in life.
Photo: Michael Lionstar
1. The Choice to Be Strong and Weak
We tend to think that strength is [a] static, constant quality. We think that if somebody is strong, they are always strong. This comes up a lot with black women, especially. In books or on TV, we often see the portrait of the Strong Black Mother, an iron-willed figure who never suffers. This is a kind of stereotype, I think, and a limiting one.
Real strength is not the absence of weaknesses or fear. It’s not the absence of doubt or anger. Real strength includes all of these emotions. It’s when you’re afraid and risking something, not when you’re afraid or risking something. For example, the main character of my novel, Hattie, is deeply flawed. She’s afraid; she is wounded; she’s prone to fits of rage; she doesn’t necessarily understand how to raise her children, but no one would deny that she’s strong.
When you see someone as a person with no weakness, you deny her her full humanity. Nobody goes through life never being afraid, and never doubting, and never being angry.
2. The Choice About Algebra
When I was in high school, English came pretty naturally to me. Math, on the other hand, didn’t. My senior year, I was having trouble with elementary functions—which is some kind of advanced algebra—and basically I said, “I hate this; this is useless for my life; I really don’t need to be bothered.” I was in [a] very angry phase and instead of dealing with my difficulties, I told myself I was not interested.
So...I was failing the class. Luckily, I had an incredible AP English teacher, Ms. Johnson. One day she called me into her classroom and told me to close the door. “Look,” she said, “you need to get yourself together with your elementary functions or I will fail you in my class too.” “But you’re my English teacher,” I said. “You can’t fail me in math!” “I can and I will,” she said.
Ms. Johnson was an amazing woman but not somebody you wanted to mess around with. She scared the bejeebers out of me—so I started working on my math grade. It was a great lesson. Life isn’t only made up of the stuff we’re good at. At some point we have to decide to tackle the difficult and the trying or we’ll remain stuck. (By the end of the semester, I had pulled my grade up to a B.)
3. The Choice to Keep Going
In Catholicism, despair is considered a mortal sin (I’m not Catholic or necessarily Christian, but I read a lot of theology) because it implies that God is powerless to effect change. Religion aside, the concept is still a good metaphor. If you’re in a state where you think even the gods can’t help you, it’s very, very difficult to recover. True despair is an absolute and utter bleakness. This state is different than the various darknesses that most of us experience over time. It’s not just sadness or discouragement or even mild depression. Despair implies a kind of ultimate emptiness, something like a grave—its opposite is life. Triumph over despair is survival.
In my novel, Hattie enters into some very trying places. Her children die. There’s really not a darker place than that, but she chooses to keep going, to keep living, to be among that first generation of people who migrated North and raised their families.
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