What is the difference between faith and belief? Ram Dass explains why one resides in the head, the other in the heart. Then, Ram Dass reflects on his stroke, reveals why he says he never felt sorry for himself and shares what it taught him about spirituality.

Born in 1931 to a wealthy family outside of Boston, Richard Alpert was the star of his family. By 27, he was an assistant professor at Harvard University with a corner office. When a professor named Timothy Leary moved into the office next door in 1959, Richard's journey to becoming the man we know today—Ram Dass—began. Watch and learn more about Ram Dass' spiritual evolution.



Then, watch below to learn more about Timothy Leary and find out about their longtime friendship.

By Ram Dass

If you read newspapers from around the world, you will realize that we in the U.S. are often seen as an economically exploitative and not very compassionate nation, and yet we are made up of people who are compassionate. It's an interesting paradox. It's like seeing a big bully beat up a little kid. You feel anger. You feel hurt and upset. You want to stop it. How much worse do you feel if you realize that you are, in fact, just like that big kid? Not only are you hurt by the unfairness of exploiting weakness, but you are also hurt by the fact that you are, in some sense, a supporter of the whole fight. This is the situation of being a citizen of a nation that can be viewed as a territorial bully. It's a terrible double whammy.

Now there is a pragmatic way of looking at this, and then there is a clearly spiritual way of looking at it. Let's look at the pragmatic way first. If you and I have a difference of opinion, and both of us feel righteous about our cause, we're having a fight. If one of us wins, in the long run both of us lose. Because if there is a winner, there is a loser. And when there is a loser, there are karmic repercussions. You see, righteousness is a very delicate thing to work with because it has anger. Righteousness is judging: It makes other people wrong. It's all about power and who is more powerful than somebody else. So from a pragmatic point of view, you may win the battle, but you may lose the war. When you say "I don't care about the war, I just want to win the battle," you have to live with the consequences.

Coming back to the question of feeling anger at somebody else's bullying— do you recognize that the same qualities that led that person to act negatively are also in you? A mafioso who is selling crack to kids goes home and holds his grandchild on his knee with tremendous love and tenderness, and he would protect his grandchild with everything he's got. He's built a structure in his mind to justify how he is living so he doesn't feel like he is an evil person. In the same way, we build a structure in our minds so we don't have to feel our unconscious side, yet we are creating karma every day with unconscious acts, like driving a big gas-guzzling car or consuming goods that are derived from oil reserves. We are using products that use up the earth's resources and are polluting the planet, even if we think we are doing it for good reasons.

Now that we can see the image of Earth as a global village— the images of the whole planet as seen from space— we can see that we are all living in the same habitat. I meet kids who have grown up with a picture of Earth as this big ship traveling through space with everybody on it. They've grown up with the Internet, where they see something going on anywhere in the world at the moment it is happening. I've watched space shrink and time change. I've watched the whole nature of who we are all together morph; I've watched cultures blend with each other, which have made nations begin to be anachronistic. And I've watched the whole development of digital media and the Web—a chain that ties us all together in even more intricate ways and that can ignite a shift in consciousness about who we are. The political and social implications are vast.

We are all a part of the web, so it's a cheap hit to be angry at somebody else. It isn't good enough. You are angry because you can't accept that everything in that person is a part of you too. And when you are angry at somebody, you push that person away. You make him or her an object. You polarize the whole situation and don't give that person a chance to change.

When somebody is doing actions you don't like, the spiritual solution is to do what you can to stop them, but you do it in such a way that you do not reject the person. You reject the action, but not the person. That is a big one. You reject the action, but not the person.

I can disagree with a political leader's actions. I can legislate. I can do civil disobedience if I think what he supports is wrong. I can disagree with actions that are not compassionate. But I want to keep my heart open. If I don't, I am part of the problem, not part of the solution. And that's just not interesting enough. That's what the inner work— to become part of the solution.

So going around being angry at everything and everybody is a cheap pie. It really is. You don't have to act out of anger in order to oppose something. You can act to oppose something because it creates suffering. You can become an instrument of that which relieves suffering, but you don't have to get angry about it. Social action does not have to be pumped up by righteous indignation or anger. That's working with the dark forces. That's working with fear. You can work with love. You can oppose somebody out of love. You can do social action out of love. And that's the way you win the whole war, not just the battle.

About Ram Dass
Ram Dass, one of America's most beloved spiritual figures, has made his mark on the world by teaching the path of the heart and promoting service in the areas of social consciousness and care for the dying. Ram Dass first went to India in 1967. He was still Dr. Richard Alpert, an eminent Harvard psychologist and psychedelic pioneer with Dr. Timothy Leary. In India, he met his guru, Neem Karoli Baba, affectionately known as Maharajji, who gave Ram Dass his name, which means "servant of God."

On his return from India Ram Dass became a pivotal influence in our culture with the publication of Be Here Now. In fact those words have become a catch phrase in people’s lives for the last 40 years. With the publication in 2011 of Be Love Now Ram Dass completes his trilogy that began with Be Here Now in 1970 and continued with Still Here in 2004.

Ram Dass' spirit has been a guiding light for four generations, carrying along millions on the journey, helping free them from their bonds as he has worked his way through his own. He now makes his home in Maui and teaches world wide through his website RamDass.org and he also  continues the work of Neem Karoli Baba through his Love Serve Remember Foundation.

Tune in at 11/10c on Sunday, April 22, for Oprah's interview with Ram Dass.

By Ram Dass

When I look at relationships, my own and others, I see a wide range of reasons for people to be together and ways in which they are together. I see ways in which a relationship—which means something that exists between two or more people—for the most part reinforces people's separateness as individual entities. And as those individual entities, the people in the relationship treat the separateness as a reality rather than simply honoring the differences.  

When I used to perform weddings, the image I always had was the image of a triangle in which there are two partners, and then there is this third force, this third being, that emerges out of the interaction of these two. The third one is the one that is the shared awareness that lies behind the two partners. And the two people in the yoga of relationship come together in order to find that shared awareness that exists behind them in order to then dance as one, so that the twoness brings them into one, and the oneness dances as two, and that's a kind of a vibrating relationship between the one and the two. So that people are both separate, and yet they are not separate. And they are experiencing that the relationship is feeding both their uniqueness as individuals and their unit of consciousness.  

Now, that is extremely delicate because it is so easy to get entrenched in your own "I need this," "I want this," "you are not fulfilling this for me" and seeing the other as an object. But the delight, which all of you have experienced, of being with somebody where you are sharing an awareness of the predicament you are both in is poignant. And you are sharing an awareness of the predicament even when you are having an argument with each other; there is an awareness that you are both almost delighting in the horrible beauty of it. I don't know whether any of you have had that. I have had it quite often. You know, we have differences. But we are enjoying it—we're hating it and enjoying it both—because there are these levels we are playing at all the time.   

We come into a relationship often very much identified with our needs: I need this. I need security. I need refuge. I need friendship. And all relationships are symbiotic in that sense. We come together because we fulfill each other's needs at some level or other.   

The problem is that when you identify with those needs, you always stay at the level where the other person is her or him—it is satisfying that need. And it really only gets extraordinarily beautiful when it becomes us—and then when it goes behind us and becomes I.

About Ram Dass
Ram Dass, one of America's most beloved spiritual figures, has made his mark on the world by teaching the path of the heart and promoting service in the areas of social consciousness and care for the dying. Ram Dass first went to India in 1967. He was still Dr. Richard Alpert, an eminent Harvard psychologist and psychedelic pioneer with Dr. Timothy Leary. In India, he met his guru, Neem Karoli Baba, affectionately known as Maharajji, who gave Ram Dass his name, which means "servant of God."

On his return from India Ram Dass became a pivotal influence in our culture with the publication of Be Here Now. In fact those words have become a catch phrase in people’s lives for the last 40 years. With the publication in 2011 of Be Love Now Ram Dass completes his trilogy that began with Be Here Now in 1970 and continued with Still Here in 2004.

Ram Dass' spirit has been a guiding light for four generations, carrying along millions on the journey, helping free them from their bonds as he has worked his way through his own. He now makes his home in Maui and teaches world wide through his website RamDass.org and he also  continues the work of Neem Karoli Baba through his Love Serve Remember Foundation.

Tune in at 11 a.m. ET/PT on Sunday for Oprah's interview with Ram Dass.