In a special one-hour "Super Soul Sunday" on October 14, Oprah talks with spiritual teacher Deepak Chopra about his work, his family and finding harmony in life. Before tuning in Sunday, get his thoughts on how to create a life where everyone, especially yourself, is worthy of love.

Love has arrived at a strange crossroads. It seems very odd to say, "I want to be more loving. Is there a scientist who can help with that?" But in modern life, our notion of love has shifted. More and more we are told—in magazines, learned journals and media reports—that love can be broken down into medical explanations, that it is produced by reactions in the brain, both chemical and electrical. We may wish that love is divine, ideal and life-transforming, the news says, but to be realistic, we should throw out our old, unscientific notions and learn more about what the brain is doing to us.

I strongly oppose such a view of love—in fact, it frightens me. On the spiritual side, there's a completely different and higher view of love, which goes something like this: Love is part of creation, woven into the very fabric of the universe. We love one another because we have tapped into nature at a deeper level. Yes, the brain is responsible for giving love its physical expression, yet ultimately, love comes from the soul.

A catchy phrase from an old pop song said, "Love the one you're with." Although you can journey outside yourself, the person to give your love to (and who, in return, must return that love), in truth, the one you are with every minute of the day, is yourself. The more rewarding way to find it is to go inward to the very source of love. If you do not do this, your love will depend on your mood swings, on how others see you and on the lovable and unlovable traits you see in yourself and others.

As soon as we measure people by what is lovable and unlovable, trouble arises. The unlovable person is labeled odd, an outsider, bad or an enemy. We create unhappiness instead. We practice nonlove, that voice inside that whispers in our ears, "They are different from us." Or, "Fight for what you want and don't quit until you win." Or, "When bad things happen to other people, it's their own fault."

We need to restore love as the key to happiness—a difficult task. That's why we need a spiritual path, so that we can walk away from nonlove and its confusions. Here are five basic steps that can lead you to a new life where everyone, most especially yourself, is worthy of loving and being loved.

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Deepak Chopra says most pain happens in the mind, not the body.  Read below as Deepak shares four questions to stop asking yourself that will help you move from hurting to healing. 

Then, tune in Sunday at 11 a.m. ET/PT for Oprah's interview with Deepak in India!

Get ready! Deepak Chopra and Oprah are appearing this weekend on "Super Soul Sunday" (October 14, at 11 a.m. ET/PT), shedding some new light on the struggles that we all go through—balancing that job with this social commitment with our all-important family and our all-too-often neglected inner lives. Here's a valuable insight that, due to time constraints, didn't come up in their inspiring discussion. Be the first to hear it from Deepak himself:

When you're feeling troubled or lost, or simply confused about life, inner harmony is held out as a goal—a beautiful but perhaps mythical goal. How can troubled thoughts and unhappy feelings be turned into inner peace? They can't. The secret of inner harmony is that it already exists. You don't have to work for it. There is no great struggle of the soul lying in your future. Instead, inner peace is uncovered, like blowing dust off a mirror or letting the clouds pass away from the sun.
 
This must be true because "the light" is consciousness itself, which is clear and blissful by its own nature. So whatever blocks the light must be temporary and outside of who we really are. The path to  inner harmony is natural and simple, in that it consists of asking "Who am I?" and not giving up until you find an answer that puts you at peace, happy with who you are, and happy with the reflection that the outer world gives you.
 
I have met many troubled people who want inner harmony. They come with heartbreaking stories of abuse, setbacks, frustration, and disappointment. There are a million ways to be in a state that has no harmony. But the very fact that each of us wants to go toward happiness and away from suffering is a key ingredient. Have a vision of harmony, and if you are sincere and willing, your life will start to mirror that vision. Have an image of the opposite—an unfair existence overwhelmed with obstacles—and your life will mirror that vision.  This isn't meant as a cruel observation. I am only saying that consciousness is powerful and in the end inescapable. You can't escape yourself. The good news is that the true self waiting for you knows only inner harmony. Ask "Who am I?" and the true self will show you.

In a special one-hour "Super Soul Sunday," Oprah sits down with world-renowned thought leader Deepak Chopra in his homeland of India to discuss his groundbreaking work, family and creating harmony in your own life. Watch a preview; then tune in Sunday, October 14, at 11 a.m. ET/PT.