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Posted: Tue 11/06/2012 08:00 AM
This Sunday, Oprah and Eckhart Tolle are reuniting for an hour of enlightenment and discussing how best to live in the present moment. Before then, read on and find out how to arrive at a new clarity when we're standing at one of life's crossroads.
Photo: David Ellingsen
One scenario: Due to budget cuts, you may—or may not—be losing your job, and you're not sure if you should take the much-lower-paying job at another company or just stay where you are in case things work out. Another: With the birth of your new baby, you need to move, and you can't make up your mind between the neighborhood with the good public school and the one where the houses are actually in your budget. Yet another: After seven years together, your marriage has turned into a relentless series of bitter arguments, but you're not certain if you should try to reconcile or finally end the relationship.
All of us have had these kinds of experiences—times when we have to decide something and we just don't know what to do.
The first step is usually to collect information. You have to look at the facts of the situation: What's for and what's against. But even then, you still may not be able to come to a conclusion. For example, if you're choosing between two three-bedroom houses, and they're just about the same price, and they're in just the same kind of neighborhood, you're not going to get very far. Pros and cons are one level of decision-making but not the most vital one.
When we can't make up our minds, it's because of our minds, or what I call "the voice in your head." Many people don't even know they have this voice. But it's talking away, creating a never-ending inner monologue. Sometimes the voice is even engaged in a dialogue, because it splits into two and you start talk to yourself. The chatter is so incessant it's like having a continuous humming sound from a refrigerator or an air conditioner in the room with you and after a while, you don't hear it anymore.
During tough choices, this voice isn't very helpful. Often it criticizes, keeping a running commentary about you and all the things you did wrong or you just didn't do. It criticizes others as well. It's like living with somebody who can't stand you, much less anybody else. You wouldn't want to live with a person like that. You would walk out of the relationship. But since you can't get free of your mind, you're stuck. The result? You get discouraged. You can't see the positive side to what might come from your decisions.
The voice in your head also creates a huge amount of problems that aren't really problems. They're just things that haven't happened yet, things that could happen tomorrow or next week. Listening to unreal problems has another name: worrying. That's what the voice in your head does. It what-ifs. It frets. It agonizes, and you can no longer sense the joy of life.
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Posted: Fri 11/02/2012 12:00 PM
In his new book, Super Brain, co-written with Dr. Rudolph E. Tanzi, Deepak Chopra explores how to use the power of the mind to improve health, happiness and spiritual well-being. Part of bettering your mind, body and soul comes down to expanding your consciousness. We caught up with Deepak backstage, and he shared five simple steps to increase your own awareness. Watch the video above to find out what they are, plus the telltale signs you're on your way to living a more present life.
Tune into "Super Soul Sunday" this week at 11 a.m. ET/PT for Meditation 101 with Deepak. You can watch it on OWN—or streaming worldwide on Oprah.com or Facebook.com/SuperSoulSunday. Deepak is also offering a special 21-day meditation course in which he'll be your teacher. Sign up here!
Posted: Thu 11/01/2012 03:00 PM
They're three of the moments that shone brightest during Oprah's conversation with thought leader Deepak Chopra. You'll get to see them all on the season premiere this Sunday, but until then, start reflecting on these thoughts.
Click here to get three notable quotes
Watch Meditation 101 with Deepak Chopra Sunday at 11 a.m. ET/PT on OWN—or streaming worldwide on Oprah.com or Facebook.com/SuperSoulSunday.
Posted: Thu 11/01/2012 12:00 PM
He's a world renowned thought leader and style trendsetter. During his shoot with Oprah, Deepak Chopra's shoes were all the rage backstage! Get a closer look at his cool kicks and find out how you can donate personalized pairs to children battling cancer, serious illness and lifelong disabilities.
Deepak is offering a special 21-day meditation course in which he'll be your teacher. Sign up here! Also, tune into "Super Soul Sunday" this week at 11 a.m. ET/PT for Meditation 101 with Deepak. You can watch it on OWN—or streaming worldwide on Oprah.com or Facebook.com/SuperSoulSunday.
Posted: Thu 11/01/2012 08:00 AM
Now more than ever before, anxiety about loss of income has replaced the sense of abundance and fulfillment. Most of our fears about not having "enough" are about money and time. But what about a lack of emotional fulfillment, a lack of love, a lack of creative solutions? Abundance is all-embracing. At least it should be.
The most crucial thing to understand is that abundance begins in the mind. Do you believe you only lack something because you haven't yet found a creative way to solve the problem? Or do you believe there's never enough to go around, unfair stuff happens, and there's not much you can do about it?
Choosing a belief system that cultivates abundance is crucial. But how do we do it? The simplest way to look at this—and also the most productive—is to recognize that you are always processing your life. There is input and output, forming a feedback loop. Input is the term for all the experiences that come your way during the day, while output is all your responses: your thoughts, words and actions. You are the one who oversees both. You sift through the input, evaluate it and take what you like, while rejecting what you don't like. Nothing is more crucial than your contribution to the feedback loop: You are the one who colors everything that comes your way, using intention, belief, expectation, wishes, hopes, dreams and fears. No input is neutral, because you are emotionally invested in your experiences. At the other end of the process, when you produce output, you again color it the same way. Your thoughts, words and actions indicate how involved you are in your life. Thus the circle of personal reality is shaped, every minute of every day.
Abundance reveals itself when you build a feedback loop that can accept and build upon what life has to offer. Look at the familiar story of lottery winners who are worse off 10 years after their sudden windfall. Why? Because they couldn't adapt. They processed life on a limited scale, and suddenly they were asked to process millions of dollars, massive attention, public exposure and the demands of people around them. Unless you have prepared the way, abundance itself can turn into a drain on you. The secret is to constantly build in small steps, taking advantage of small victories by using them to create your own belief system, one that can accept higher and higher levels of opportunity. Here are a few guidelines that you can use...
Get Deepak's guidelines on how to recognize abundance in your life
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