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Posted: Fri 04/26/2013 12:00 AM
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All of us experience things that completely hit the reset button on our lives. For Nate Berkus, it was surviving the 2004 tsunami that took the life of his partner, photographer Fernando Bengoechea. Here, the designer shares some of the lessons he learned about hanging on and moving forward. Read on, then tune in for Nate's discussion with Oprah this Sunday on OWN.
Wait for the Glimmer
In the weeks after the tsunami, I didn't have the strength or energy to get out of bed. I wasn't eating much or able to carry a conversation. Then one day, I realized I was bored. I wanted to shower, change out of my sweat pants and leave the house. I saw a glimmer of my former self. A lot of people can feel really guilty about that choice of wanting to live, but I embraced it. That was somebody—something—giving me a second chance. The desire to go to a store with my mother and walk around for a half hour—that was somebody throwing me a rope.
Accept the Moviegoers and the Hand Holders
After the tsunami, I had some friends whose energy I found extremely comforting. They sat with me in silence when I needed it, and also offered valuable advice. The most surprising thing? These were the people I least expected to be there for me. I didn't know they had that capacity—but I had also never needed to see that side of them before.
Then there were other people I was—and still am—incredibly close to who just didn't have the skill set or tools to give me what I needed in that moment. At first I was angry, but then I realized not everybody can jump into the role of therapist, grief counselor or recovery co-pilot. Some people just don't have that in them.
One friend, in particular, wasn't able to come over and cry with me for hours. But when I was ready to go see a movie, I thought: "I can't wait to see her. Let me call her because I know she'll be able to distract me from this." Everybody falls into his or her natural role. Try not to judge people for what they're capable of giving you. Instead, accept them for who they are and what they can do.
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Posted: Wed 04/24/2013 12:00 AM
Nate Berkus believes your home should tell your story. Not who your decorator is. Not who your friends sometimes think you should be, not who your family occasionally wishes you would be, and not who any number of style magazines say you "must be. Today, get Nate's words of wisdom on creating the home of your dreams. Then, tune in Sunday as he opens up to Oprah about coming out, the cancellation of his talk show and more.
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Posted: Mon 04/22/2013 12:00 AM
They've done dozens of shows together, but Oprah and Nate Berkus have never had a conversation like this. Tune in Sunday, April 28, as Nate discusses coming out, the cancellation of his talk show, losing the love of his life in the tsunami and his new book, The Things That Matter, in a two-part interview. Watch the encore presentation of part 1 at 11 a.m. ET/PT. Part 2 airs at noon ET/PT.
Posted: Sun 04/21/2013 02:00 PM
In 2008, millions of people logged on to a 10-week webcast event to study with Oprah and one of the great spiritual thinkers of our time, Eckhart Tolle. Oprah says it was one of the most exciting, eye-opening and meaningful moments of her career. "It still thrills me to think about it," she says.
Though he's a teacher to millions worldwide, many may not know how Eckhart's spiritual journey began. At age 29, this German-born author was a research scholar in comparative literature at the University of Cambridge in England. Despite his success, it wasn't enough to halt bouts anxiety and depression so severe he considered ending his life. In his darkest hour, Eckhart says he experienced an awakening that transformed his life. He walked away from his career to explore his newly discovered inner peace. Eckhart's profound, yet spiritual teachings are the basis for his best-selling books, The Power of Now and A New Earth.
Now, Oprah and Eckhart reuniting on stage for the first time in four years to discuss living in the present moment and more. Watch the videos below for four unforgettable life lessons.
Lesson 1: Staying Present and Finding God
Eckhart says that only through the present moment do you have access to the power of life itself. That power is God. Watch as Eckhart explains why only believing in God is a poor substitute for the reality of God. Plus, watch as he demonstrates the simple exercise you can do to visualize the present moment.
Lesson 2: Your Soul Is Smarter Than Your Head
While reading one of Eckhart's books, Oprah realized he described the true definition of an aha! moment—spirit recognizing spirit. Watch to find out why you probably have known the lessons you learn from aha! moments all along.
Posted: Sun 04/21/2013 02:00 PM
Where does spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle feel most at home? Is he always happy? Watch this lightning round of Soul to Soul questions and see which answer made Oprah laugh out loud.
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