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Yolanda's Blog: Epiosde 3
Posted: Mon 11/26/2012 11:42 AM
Episode 3 does a phenomenal job of capturing the realities of military life during deployment. It gave me a different perspective as I watched what the other ladies go through.
I remember Mother's Day vividly. I cried when I received the 3 AM call that we had two additional KIAs (Killed In Action).
I knew someone's spouse/child/friend/mentor/family member/hero would receive notification of the casualty. I also knew that the ladies would not receive a call saying "Happy Mother's Day!" In light of the loss of life, that seems like such an insignificant detail. However, when we have casualties, only the Senior Spouses are aware of the deaths and/or injuries. I have to hold the information inside until the proper notification is made to the family. I always write a letter to the loved ones of those affected. I pray first because I want to make sure I use the right words. My husband writes a letter as well and we pray for them daily.
The spouses go through Predeployment training (this is optional). They are given the procedures used for notification. However, it is easy to forget when you go days without hearing from your soldier. Sara handled it really well. We also have AFTB (Army Family Team Building) classes.
I think the mom/son relationship may be changing. I really gained strength from seeing my son. I love him overwhelmingly! I am not sure if I am ready to "let go." Of course every mother wants what is best for her child. The question becomes "What is best?" Prayer....
My husband is a pillar of strength, a mighty warrior! Because he is passionate, he feels deeply. Every casualty (wounded as well as deaths) affects him tremendously. After our first KIA, I asked how he was doing. He said, "I am fine. I am Spartan 6." Spartan 6 is his call sign (We are the Spartans and 6 always refers to a commander. So Spartan 6 is how the brigade commander is referenced). I responded, "I know you are Spartan 6, but you are my husband. How are you doing?" At the time, I knew he was in Commander mode, but I wanted him to know that I am here as a wife. Soldiers put on the "warrior" mentality to do their jobs, but they also need an outlet. I try to be that safe place for my husband. He calls me his peace blanket.
Please continue to pray for deployed soldiers and the family of the fallen.
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