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Blair's Blog: Episode 8
Posted: Wed 01/02/2013 02:42 PM
Talking about it is key. There are so many confusing thoughts in your head both before they get home and then once they arrive. If you don't talk it out, damage is done. I know this from experience. The time it takes to work through the reintegration process lasts for a few months-and that's no lie. So, to help your marriage through that process, takes some knowledge and awareness, as well as healthy communication skills.
I loved watching Salina and her family with Tiffany Hall, the photographer. I'm so glad she had the opportunity to do that with Terry before he went back. It did break my heart when she said "God forbid something happens to Terry, we have photos of them together." She said it out loud on TV. There, she said it. It just goes to show, again that we (as military wives) have to think about this particular occurrence actually happening on a daily basis. It's not something that I think the general public actually understands about us. It is our sacrifice at home to have these horrible thoughts in our heads every day.
When Lindsey came over after her "enhancement" surgery, I was glad we could talk about what she needed to do as far as her and Phillip are concerned. I think she came to some realizations during our conversation, and then was able to work through how to fix these issues with Mrs. Goins later, during their lunch date. It did make me think about the kind of friend I am. Do my friends come to me to hear the blatant truth? Why can't I be the friend that also helps you solve the problem as well? I don't want to be just the person that points out problems, I also want to be a person who can help with the follow-through. Hmmmmm. Grrrrrrr.
G.I. Jane day was therapeutic for all of us. I am so glad I did that. But don't tell anybody I said that!