Kailen Rosenberg on the Road Blocks to Love
Posted: Thu 09/13/2012 05:00 PM
I hope that you have enjoyed these past few episodes and that you are continuing to learn, along with being entertained, while on your own journey to love!
Today, I want to talk about road blocks to love. Just this week in my firm, The Love Architects, an elite client of ours threw down some heavy ones—and my love architects and I are working hard to help her clear the path to love. In many cases, just as we're seeing with Charles, being strong, independent, educated, smart and in control serves people in their careers but not always in love. I have countless doctors, lawyers, executives and entrepreneurs who come to us seeking love. They may be charming, beautiful, wealthy and seem to have the world by the tail, but they’re still searching for meaningful, healthy relationships. What sometimes unfolds in the love process is that people can have deep, unhealed heart wounds from childhood and/or past relationships. This is the case with Martina—she’s blocking love without even being aware of it.
This can happen in many ways. As a rule, the body does not like change, and when we begin to move in a healthier direction—whether it is mind, body or soul—there is resistance, and fear. From there, we may encounter self-sabotage, projecting and power plays to control others, and invite people into dysfunctional communication transactions, such as criticism, rudeness, threats and even temper tantrums! It can get VERY interesting as we move toward love.
However, there is hope. People can and do heal—if they are willing to look at what's keeping them stuck and take responsibility for healing it themselves (with help). I see it all the time! Thank God! As with all of our singles on the show, we hope to get our elite client past the blocks she has engineered. Time will tell...
So you can see I’m not simply a matchmaker or a dating coach, although there are components of each I draw upon. Paul and I are engineers of healthy relationships, and sometimes, there is significant remodeling or perhaps even a tear down that needs to happen to build a rewarding, healthy love life. You've got to get in there with a flashlight and peek under the floorboards to find and repair what needs attention. It sometimes gets messy, but it's beautiful, meaningful work!
Until next time, Kailen Rosenberg
(along with my dear Love Architect, Kary)