Iyanla: Fix My Life
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Posted: Mon 11/12/2012 06:44 PM
Beloveds, my schedule has been so hectic with filming and travel, but I wanted to make sure you still had a Monday Matters. Please enjoy this transcript taken from the Audio CD found with my book, "Tapping the Power Within: A Path to Self-Empowerment for Women". Have a wonderful week. Love, Iyanla
Posted: Mon 09/10/2012 03:33 PM
However, when you are considered by the public to be a public person, these things become fuel for public judgment and criticism. They become things that those who do not know you can use to ridicule and condemn you. They may be things that the average person would do every day. But when a public person engages in the same behavior, the sacred, secret and normal morphs into scandal.
When you are considered a public person, human weakness means you can be discredited, even when the weakness has nothing to do with what made you public. As a public person your personal challenges can be reported and discussed publicly as malicious intentions. Your choices and decisions are used to validate public opinion of your worth and worthiness. Your mistakes and missteps are elevated to offenses that fuel the public’s outcry for punishment, which is often debated long after it is necessary or productive.
When you are a public person, your every intention is suspect; your every move is criticized, your very personage is subject to attack and debasement and, in the midst of it all, you are expected to feel good about yourself and the people who made and keep you public. These scenarios have been exasperated and exaggerated with the expansion of social media and reality television.
When you are a public person, whether by choice or circumstance, there is a pedestal that is thrust beneath your feet. As a public person, it is considered your responsibility to stay on that pedestal and meet the demands, requirements and expectations of pedestal living. After all, you are a public person! A celebrity! You know that people are looking at you, following you, hanging onto your every word and wishing secretly to be you and have some of what they think you have, even if you don’t have it or deserve it.
When you are unaware or unconcerned of what the demands are, how to meet the requirements or who has created the expectations, you can expect a hard and fast fall. Staying on the pedestal is a matter of making everyone happy, following the trends of public opinions and meeting the expectations of others.