The Work: "Fix My Backstabbing Friends"

October 06, 2012

Everything that is born is born through the feminine energy. The feminine energy is a powerful source of life. Women are powerful. Unfortunately, many of us are programmed and conditioned to distrust our power and each other. The story of Six Brown Chicks is that of six powerful women who were given inaccurate information about themselves and each other. The good news is that the love they had for each other ushered them onto Iyanla: Fix My Life and a new awareness. Their story is a common one. Their healing can be an inspiration to us all.

This study guide is offered to support you in developing the skills and courage required to acknowledge your power and your responsibility as a powerful being, whether you are a woman or a man. As you complete the inquiries (feel free to write multiple versions of the prompts as needed), stay focused on you, your thoughts and your motivations, even if other people are involved. As you open your heart and mind to compassionately acknowledge what you have done or not done, you open the door for healing, learning and growth.

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Using the following prompt, identify a current or past experience where you believe a woman betrayed you: I felt betrayed by ___ when she ___.

What are the three to five words you would use to describe her behavior.

What are the 3-5 words you would use to describe your feelings about the experience?

Complete the following prompt by using your descriptive words for her behavior to recall and describe a time when you have done the same thing to yourself or someone else. I recall behaving this way when I ___.

Using the descriptive words for your feelings, fill in the blank for the following prompt: What I brought to this experience was ___.

Using the following prompt, compare what you brought to the experience with the way you described her behavior. What I have learned about myself is ___.

Forgiveness for everything you believe was done to you and for what you may have done to yourself:

I forgive myself for believing ___.