The Top 5 Relationship Misconceptions
I am not allowed to find other people attractive.
People often feel guilty when they find someone other than their partner attractive. While this is a common knee-jerk reaction, the truth is that there is no reason why couples shouldn't notice attractive people. After all, you are still a living, breathing sexual being! However, this doesn't mean you should act on your feelings. Instead, channel those feelings into your own relationship, and make sure that your "crush" stays in your head where it belongs.
Our kids have to come first.
That sounds good on paper, but in practice, it means that you and your partner never get the TLC you need to keep your relationship strong. The best gift you can give to your kids is a stable home and a loving relationship to look up to, so make sure that you make time for date night and adult-only occasions.
"Doing it all" makes me a good partner.
It's important to be attentive to your partner's needs, but some people take the giving thing a little too far. If you are doing everything for your partner (such as cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, etc.), you are not only infantilizing him, but you are also turning yourself into a harried, frenzied mess. You can't do it all and you shouldn't try to. Ask your partner for help and tackle errands and responsibilities as a team. After all, that's what being a couple is all about!
Published on January 31, 2011