Engaged couples often spend time discussing every minute detail of their upcoming union. Between ordering the perfect floral arrangements and losing those last five pounds for the wedding dress, many couples forget to plan for what's most important: their relationship after the "I do's."
Steal these tricks from happily married couples and make sure that your love life stays on track long after your sunburn from the honeymoon has faded:
Take romantic comedies with a grain of salt. A recently released study found that fans of romantic comedies are less likely to communicate with their partners and more likely to have unrealistic expectations of their relationships. Even though you wish your husband could read your mind or that he would be a diehard romantic, the truth is that you can't change your partner into the perfect man. Besides, reality is often much more interesting than fiction. Lesson learned: Enjoy your romantic comedies, but go easy on your partner - there's only one Hugh Grant, after all!
Communicate your private desires. Somewhere along the way, many long-term couples stop talking about sex. This can be a huge problem, even if your sex life is currently blissful. You need to be able to talk about your needs and your fantasies, especially if issues ever arise down the road. Communication is key when it comes to great sex. Remember, if you don't tell your wife or husband what you want and need, they won't be able to give it to you. If you are too afraid to voice your fantasies out loud, start a fantasy box and write down your fantasies on little slips of paper. Whenever things get dull, reach into the fantasy box, pull out a fantasy, and act it out!
Don't try and do it all. Women are especially guilty of this one. We want to do it all - excel at our jobs, cook the perfect dinner, have a beautiful home, raise happy kids, etc. One problem: We can't do it all, and trying to do so just leaves us harried, frazzled, and grumpy. No wonder many women aren't in the mood for sex at the end of the day!
Accept help when your partner offers it. Even if he doesn't unload the dishwasher the "right" way, he can still be your teammate and give you much-needed R & R time. Let go of the control and accept that not everything is going to be picture-perfect. When you are relaxed and happy, your sex life and your relationship will benefit as a result.
Have fun together. It sounds simple, but many people let the fun in their relationship fizzle. Sure, life is hectic, but you should always make time to enjoy each other's company. And, date night doesn't have to cost a lot! Have a game night with your partner and play classic board games like Twister or Scrabble, or make margaritas and tacos and have a Mexican-themed date night at home. Whatever you do, make sure that you always make time for each other. After all, that's what being married is all about!
The honeymoon shouldn't be over. Lastly, don't pack away your swimsuits just because the honeymoon is technically over. It shouldn't be the last romantic trip you take as a couple. Even if you have kids, you still need this special away time with your partner. Keep having honeymoons forever!