In her book, Living Two Lives: Married to a Man and in Love with a Woman, Joanne offers advice for women who are struggling with the decision to come out. "They don't have any place to turn. They can't really turn to their heterosexual friends because most people wouldn't understand," Joanne says. "And then they can't really turn to the gay community because they don't really feel a part of the gay community. They're not there yet."
Joanne says that coming out can be particularly difficult for women. "I think the hardest part for women is they also have the role of mother and they are presenting themselves...[as] the head of a family in certain ways."