Despite years of verbal and emotional abuse, Amy says she never thought her ex-husband was capable of the crimes he committed. "He was never physically abusive," she says. "Mentally abusive? Yes. Physically? No, never."
Amy believes her ex-husband became physically violent when their marriage fell apart. "I think the biggest thing is he lost control of the whole family/marriage situation," she explains. "He was very controlling. He had to have everything done his way, his time frame. He lost control when I wanted joint custody of the boys and he wanted me to give him full custody."