Deedie and Jenny will celebrate their 17th anniversary in June. Deedie says that she had previously thought about leaving their relationship because of the stress Jenny's transition caused her. In the end, however, she decided that it was more important to stay with the person she loves, despite spectacular changes. "Part of the reason we're still married is it is the same person," Deedie says. "And so the things that we shared didn't necessarily have anything to do with gender before."
A big part of Jenny and Deedie staying together is their love for their two children. "When I talk to the kids about it now, every once in a while they'll say, 'Yeah, it's kind of hard to not have a family like everybody else's,'" Deedie says. "But they still have the two people that love them the most in the world, the two most important people in their world. So, although I lost a husband, I still have a great partner, spouse and friend."
"The choice for me that is the best thing for me is to share this life that we've built together," Deedie adds. "If I didn't think it was the best thing for me, I would leave."