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Dr. Gail Saltz, author of Becoming Real, is a psychotherapist that deals with people with weight issues and thought that both Trina and Trevor have some issues to conquer.

"[Trevor,] you are very invested in your wife as a reflection of you, and for you it's all about the physical," Dr. Saltz says. "And until you either can see that differently, my question might be to your wife,' Why do you want to stay in this marriage?'"

Trina admits that she's always believed that Trevor was going to leave her and that she stays with him because she believes he's the best she can get. Dr. Saltz says that all Trina is doing is contributing to the problem—she's subconsciously setting herself up for him to leave—like a self-fulfilling prophesy.

"You're more than preparing him," Dr. Saltz says. "You're unconsciously driving him away. Like just get it over with. … And, you need to get to a point where you feel like, 'Boy, Trevor is one lucky guy to have me.'"
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FROM: You're Not the Person I Married
Published on April 29, 2005

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