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Jenny and Deedie's two sons were 4 and 6 years old when Jim began his procedure. They're now 9 and 11. Jenny and Deedie say that, like many children, their sons are resilient in the face of great change. "I think that there are a lot worse things that can happen to a family," Jenny says. "Because, I mean, we are different. That's for sure. But in most of the ways that matter, we're not that different. We don't spend our time sitting around at home talking about gender change. We spend our time at home practicing the trumpet and making peanut butter sandwiches."
But one logistical challenge did present itself. "My older boy turned to me and said, 'You know, we can't be calling you daddy if you're a girl. That's just too weird,'" Jenny says. "And I said, 'Well, you can call me Jenny because that's my name now.' And he said, 'Well, Jenny sounds like the name of a little old lady.' So he said, 'Why don't we call you Maddy?' That's like half-mommy or half-daddy." So now Jenny's kids call her Maddy.