Wendy and Tony

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Years later, Tony says he's coping with the damage that is still seeping into every area of his life. He says the sexual abuse he suffered as a teen was eating away at his physical and emotional relationship with his wife, and the couple turned to counseling for help.

The impact of the abuse on Tony's marriage has him fearing the worst.

"If she came home and said 'I just can't get by it, we're done,' I wouldn't blame her," Tony says. "[But] it would kill me. I believe I'd do just about anything to hang onto my children and my wife."

Wendy says at one point, she did consider leaving Tony.

"There came a point in our lives when Tony was so angry and so shameful that I just did not see any light at the end of the tunnel. … And really I came to a point where I realized that I was not going to be able to help him. I couldn't take this away. I had to look in the mirror and say, 'I need to take care of myself and I need to heal.' And it was from that moment really that I was able to come back into his life and realize that I couldn't solve this for him. … And I refused to let this be one more casualty of this abuse."
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Published on June 13, 2005

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