Journalists Adrienne Lopez and Stephanie Gertler co-authored To Love, Honor and Betray: The Secret Life of Suburban Wives. They, too, found that women who were cheating on their husbands would end the affair if they were treated differently by their husbands.
Stephanie: We would ask them, "If you came home one evening after having this affair, and you walked in the house and your husband had votive candles lit and was dressed beautifully, and he had a stew on the stove and a bottle of wine, and he looked at you and said, 'Tell me how to love you, tell me what it is I need to do to show you I love you,' what would you do? Would you leave your lover?" And every one of them cried and said that's what they want. They want their marriage. They want their husband.
Adrienne: We basically found that these women wanted what they were doing with their lovers to happen in their own lives.