Secret Lives

During 30 years of marriage, Carol Grever had no idea that her husband was having sex with other men. In the beginning, she had thought she found her perfect match—little did she know her husband was having affairs with hundreds and hundreds of men.

When her husband finally confessed to her, Carol was, of course, devastated. She says that she relates this kind of unimaginable pain to what a person goes through when dealing with a death in the family.

"You go through the stages of death you go through when another person dies," Carol says. "And you have to take care of yourself. You have to do what's best for you. Whatever that would be. I would say [to other wives] find a counselor."

Carol says that after going through these stages, she realized that, in a sense, she felt relieved."

[For years] I had thought I was not sexy enough or beautiful enough or interesting enough," she says. "I thought there was something wrong with me. So it was a big relief. I thought, 'Maybe I'm okay after all.'"