While Amy says it's important to show Ella that her parents love each other, she wishes Timothy would take the reins. "I would always rather be in the passenger seat," she says. "That's why I picked somebody who's outgoing and loud and gregarious."
Gary says Amy needs to picture explaining to Ella in 15 years that she left Timothy because he didn't make money. "I'm not okay with that," she says.
The problem, Amy says, is that marriage has never seemed like something to fight for. She says that even cancer—she had melanoma three years ago—seemed easy compared to this. "This is much scarier," she says.
Gary says cancer felt easier because Amy made the decision to survive from the get-go. "You both have to decide whether you're going to fight for [your marriage]," he says.