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Randy says Michelle absolutely needs to make that call. "When a 12-year-old is involved, it's dangerous. Are they going to have safe sex? The 12-year-old? I think maybe not," he says. "This is when it's our obligation as adults, as members of a community, to make sure our children are not doing anything dangerous."

Faith says Michelle's first priority needs to be preserving her relationship with her son—and calling the girl's mother could embarrass him. "You should be elated as a mom that your 12-year-old son came to you and shared this information," she says. "So I think that this is a perfect opportunity to tell your son, 'Tell that girl that my mom reads my texts so don't write that kind of stuff.'"

Randy adds that the real issue at hand is how you tell, not if you tell. "Let your son know that you're going to do this. You should do it in a way that doesn't embarrass him," he says. "It's wonderful that your son is this open, but I think you can still protect this other child without betraying the trust of your son."

Michelle says she's decided to make that call. The conversation won't be easy, but as long as she has good intentions and is doing this out of love for both children, Faith says she's doing the right thing. "You can only come into it with your best intentions, and you can't control how people react."
FROM: How to Handle Life's Stickiest Situations
Published on June 02, 2009


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