Randy, Faith and Oprah

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How do you tell a friend she's wearing too much perfume? Faith says you shouldn't feel bad about it. "I think that perfume is kind of like secondhand smoke," she says. "It's in your zone, and it's an easy thing to fix."

How about if she's wearing too much makeup or unflattering clothing? Faith says that can be tricky, and it might be a good idea not to bring it up. "I think that's a form of self-expression, and they're going to feel bad about themselves—especially someone who's overweight," she says. "I think that could do a lot of damage to their self-esteem."

Randy agrees that you shouldn't be offering any advice—unless a friend specifically asks for it—in matters of taste. "Ask yourself this: Does my friend own a mirror? Has my friend employed me as her fashion consultant? Otherwise, I wouldn't volunteer," he says. "She knows how she looks. If she chooses to look that way, she's allowed to."
FROM: How to Handle Life's Stickiest Situations
Published on June 02, 2009