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Is there any good way to tell someone she has bad breath? "If you care about the person, it's your friend, you have to tell them. But it's not easy," Randy says. "I start by saying, 'I really care about you, and if I had something wrong with me, if I had spinach in my teeth'—I'd start with a small thing—'I would want you to tell me.' ... And then I would say, 'It's going to sting a little bit.'"

Faith says she agrees that a preface is a good idea, but wouldn't make it so dramatic. "Say, 'Look, this is hard to say. I would want to know if I were in your position.' ... [Then] just say, 'Your breath isn't that fresh.'"

Randy says he'd take it to another level after that. "I would add, 'Is there anything you want to say to me?'" he says. "I think it establishes that we care about each other and we can speak freely to each other. 'I'm not trying to hurt you. I'm just trying to tell you something that I would want to know in your place.'"
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FROM: How to Handle Life's Stickiest Situations
Published on June 02, 2009

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