Another one of producer Tara's favorite moments happened when Oprah held a roundtable discussion with former batterers. Oprah asked what it takes to change that behavior—the answer, from a man named Zeke, was illuminating.
"That's probably the easiest question so far," he said. "Learning to tolerate pain, and learning to manage emotions that don't feel good."
Zeke's observation made Tara and Oprah see abuse as a response to pain—a response that is socially unacceptable and therefore often misunderstood. "This was a way for us to see it in a new light and maybe reach out to batterers in that way and show them in a different light," says Tara. "I remember when we left. We were both like, 'Wow. We never thought of it that way.'"