To ensure his daughters spend enough time with both parents, Garth and his ex-wife, Sandy, alternate every other day caring for their three children. "We're five minutes from each other in case somebody forgets their backpack or their bloomers for their cheerleading outfit," Garth says.
Trisha is very committed to Garth's daughters. "I can't speak for how children survive divorce because I didn't come from a divorced home," she says. "My job is to make that as good a situation as it can possibly be so that they have one more person in their life that's a cheerleader for them and that wants them to do well."
Garth and Trisha say that communication is the key to their new family's success. Every night that the girls are at Garth's house, they have "The Honesty Club." "You turn out all the lights in the house, [light] one candle, everybody lays down on the floor and touches the candle, and 'what's said in the club,' everyone says, 'stays in the club,'" Garth says. "And I would love to tell you what [is said] after that, but I can't."
Although the club is top secret, Trisha explains its premise. "This is the place that you can say anything," Trisha says. "Because you want to—at every age that they are—hope that they will feel like that they can always tell you everything. And, you know, realistically they probably won't always tell you everything, but you want to make them feel like they can say anything. And it can be about us. ... And they're very honest."
All of Garth's fans are dying to know: Will he ever come out of retirement?
"I want to do that [tour again]," he admits. "I want to live it. Breathe it. Sleep with it. I just want to just nail it and do it and tear the city down and then say, 'I love you, goodbye,' and look at the next city and say, 'Okay, your ass is next.' You know? And you can't do that with, I'm sorry, with children. I can't. Hats off to the people that do. I can't."
Instead, he says he's concentrating on his family. "I've never been more in love with my life or felt better about myself, if that's not too egotistical," he says. "Children make you love yourself for what they see in you."
Garth offers his fans this glimmer of hope: "Our youngest baby's nine," he says. "I'm thinking when she's off to college...if there's a window that's still open and I'm not 800 pounds by then, then we'll see."
"And," Trisha adds, "If your wife says you can!"
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