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Cheryl's the first to admit that she doesn't do the work alone—her daughter also has a nanny—and she says no mother can do it all herself. "I have help," she says. "My sister has two kids, and she has babysitters but not full time. She teaches at a university, and when her twins were little, she would bring them to class and let the children hold them while she taught. You do what you've got to do."
Amy says that many mothers have help in some form, but not all are completely honest about it. "They say, 'I have 10 hours of nanny help,' when it's really 25."