Years after molesting Mo'Nique, Gerald was convicted of molesting somebody else and was sentenced to 12 years in prison. Though not everyone who has been molested later molests children themselves, Gerald says the abuse in his childhood is the reason he abused in his past. "I hid my own molestation and pain and guilt and shame because I thought it was my fault that these things happened to me," he says. "So I internalized that and I hid behind the drugs and alcohol and then that spiraling thing in my mind, as a child, I wanted to express my sexuality, so I took it out on my sister."
Many of the relationships in his life also suffered due to his abuse, Gerald says. "I lost myself, and I didn't know how to get myself back. So I became angry. I have some relationships that I assumed were great in in the beginning but didn't last because of my hidden past," he says. "Even with my mom and my dad, even to this day, the relationship I had with them, I lost at some point."
After the abuse took place, Gerald says he and Mo'Nique had what appeared to be a normal brother and sister relationship until she had her twin sons. "I went to the hospital to see my nephews Jonathan and David. ... I picked up my nephew and held him, and I couldn't hold him for so long because they were in the incubator, and I gave my nephew back to the nurse," Gerald says. Later that same day, after he'd left, Gerald says Mo'Nique called him. "She said: 'You know what? I don't want you to be around my boys.'" Gerald says that was the last time he saw his sister.
Gerald says he hopes that by speaking out and apologizing to Mo'Nique, his family can begin to heal. "Now that this is out, Mo'Nique, I'm here. Now that you see me, and I'm apologizing to you, now let's bring our family back together, because your whole thing is about love. Your whole thing is about reaching out and assisting and helping someone," Gerald says. "Well, let's show the world that, yes, we can have a problem as a family. Yes, this is an incident that went on within my own family. Yes, I might be someone famous, but put my fame aside for a minute. I am still a human being."