Life really is what you make of it, Melissa says. "You have to make a choice to perceive life as: 'Is this the most horrible thing that ever happened to me? Or is this the greatest opportunity for me?'"
At 48, Melissa says she's finally realized that life is about the journey. "Especially in our sort of work where we think that there's a 'there.' There's a place that we can be the most successful or something. It doesn't exist," she says. "I don't have a bucket list because it is my dedication to live every day of my life there. I don't have a bucket list because I'm doing it that day. I don't want to go to bed and say, 'Oh, I wish I had done this.'"