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After getting some insight from four single women, Gayle meets with a group of single men to see what dating is like on the other side of the dinner table.

Women may think it's easy for guys to make the first move, but the men say that's not the case. All four guys say they are afraid of rejection. "I'm convinced every time I've asked a woman out, she's actually asked me out first in some subtle way," Stephen says.

Bates says women don't need to approach guys they find attractive. All they need to do is make eye contact.

"If a man is wired in, he knows when a woman is interested without you being so overt about it," Ryan says.

Another thing guys say they're looking for is physical attraction. "I was in couples counseling years ago and the therapist said, 'Did you feel a spark?' And I said, 'No,'" Bates says. "He said, 'You've got to feel a spark.'"

"My dad used to tell me if you're the only person who thinks your woman looks good, you've got a problem," Ryan says.

Vince, a doctor, has trouble finding the right women and finding time to date. This wouldn't be an issue if Vince found his perfect match, Steve says. "We always find time for women—if the right girl comes along."
FROM: The Best Places to Find Men Over 35: Gayle King Reports
Published on January 01, 2006