Donnell, a personal trainer who always considered himself a ladies' man, is now a manly lady known as Raven Nightshade.
Donnell says he drew some of his female energy from Oprah. "I always told my wife, 'All women have an inner Oprah inside,'" Donnell says. "What I mean by that is in times of need or in trouble, or when you need to call on something, you call on [Oprah], you know? A little bit of [Oprah]. She's in school right now, so when she gets stressed out I say. 'What would Oprah do?' And it always helps her."