When John started cheating, it was about three years into his marriage. Just recently, his wife, Amy, discovered old e-mails from John's first mistress—he's had two relationships since then—his cheating had gone beyond emotional. John says that he and Amy had a major disconnect in their relationship that led him to look for a connection outside of their marriage.
"It was totally emotional," John says. "The three affairs I had, I never had sex with any of them. They were all emotional affairs. It was all about connecting with this other person. Now with the first person, yes, it got to the point that there was some fooling around and I would have had sex with her had the opportunity presented itself."