Shooting Kirstie Alley's Big Life has served as a reminder that she is in charge of her own life, Kirstie says. "There's that poem, 'Invictus,' ... and the last two lines say: 'I am the master of my fate. The captain of my soul.' And I had forgotten that I was the captain of my soul," she says. "It's hard not to succumb to the pressures that are around you when you're a celebrity because it is so open. ... But I don't give an F anymore. Once I realized [that], I said: 'Who are you? You're the girl who has two beautiful children. You're the girl that has had a great career in acting and has awards and has friends and has family and health.'"
That realization helped Kirstie realize she didn't need to worry about critics bringing her down, she says, even when her body is plastered on the covers of tabloids. "It's cathartic because it gets you to confront yourself," she says.
Even so, Kirstie says she hates the paparazzi. "If [I'm somewhere] I know the paparazzi's going to be—that's where they hang out or I'm at an event—then that feels appropriate," she says. "But when they're shooting my children? They've stalked my children from the time they were babies. When they shoot me driving my children to school, ... then they get a reaction."