Jenny Sanford
Looking back, Jenny says she should have paid more attention to specific red flags with Mark. During their engagement, Jenny says Mark declared he did not want the word "faithful" used in their wedding vows. "I said, 'Wait a minute. Let's not get married then if you don't intend to be faithful,'" she says. "[He said,] 'I want to be married just to you and I want to be faithful. I just have this doubt.' And so it was a very wholesome and honest discussion that we had."

At the time, Jenny says she never thought Mark would cheat. "This is a guy who was really clumsy with women. He could hardly kiss a woman. I had doubts about him but they weren't about his ability to be faithful," she says. "I had a big career on Wall Street. I was worried about what kind of a job he was going to have. I truly had other doubts. I saw it as wholesome and kind of refreshing. "

After Jenny learned about the affair, she says she did her best to try to reconcile with Mark. Still, she says, Mark couldn't let go of Maria. "[He asked,] 'Do you want to wake up when you are 80 and know you never had a heart connection?'" she says. "[I said,] 'I thought I was it.'"

Jenny says that discussion was extremely painful. "I said to him, 'Why don't you keep working on the marriage for the sake of our children? She's not going anywhere,'" she says. "And he said, 'What if she does?' I was dealing with a man who had lost sight of the values that were the basis of our marriage."

FROM: Former South Carolina First Lady Jenny Sanford and Gavin de Becker
Published on July 22, 2010


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