Jenny says two major signs helped her realize the relationship had run its course. "When it's not fun anymore, you need to start investigating and do an inquiry into the relationship," she says. "You usually see fights happening a little bit more frequently."
Jenny likens the last days of a relationship to an hourglass. "The sands were coming through, and toward the end I just kind of noticed they were almost done and each [grain] was a lesson," she says. "All those lessons were being learned, and after the final one dropped, I looked at him like a teacher and kind of knew. And he did too."
Jenny says it was important to leave the relationship in the best shape possible. "You can honor the timing of that, or you can stay in a relationship that doesn't work for 30 years," she says. "I listened to my emotional guidance system."
Despite their connection, Jenny says she doesn't think she and Jim will ever get back together. "No," she says. "I definitely feel like—and I have that image of the sands in the hourglass—the lessons were learned."