"Parents are supposed to give the child back to herself with love," Jane says. "If they've got duct tape over their eyes because of narcissism, it doesn't happen."
"And you would say that of your father, narcissist?" Oprah asks.
"And mother too," Jane says.
When she was 59, Jane says she did a life review, which allowed her to forgive people in her life, including her parents. "The people who did you wrong or who didn't quite know how to show up, you forgive them," she says. "And forgiving them allows you to forgive yourself too."
Watch Jane explain how to do your own life review.
In her life review, Jane discovered that her mother, who committed suicide when Jane was 12, had been sexually abused. "[That] changed my life," Jane says. "I [realized] it had nothing to do with me."