Iyanla's responded, "What you draw to you is what you are." What Iyanla meant was that all the makeup, eyeliner and clothes the audience member wore was just a facade. Iyanla asked the woman to call herself a liar and see how it felt. "Not particularly [good]," the woman responded.
"Why would you project that onto someone else?" Iyanla asked. "Because that's your judgment. Your perception of reality and his perception of reality may be completely different."