On August 10, 1999, Iyanla shared how the power of language can help women change their lives. "Words create experiences. Words are things," Iyanla said. "So when you say 'I can't,' you won't. When you say 'I don't,' you don't."
Iyanla advised single and divorced women to use positive phrases, like "I'm open and willing to experience a new relationship," and "I'm desiring a new mate to show up just as they are today."