You can still go out on a date night, Gary says, just don't spend money. "The best date night my wife and I ever went on, and we've done it for years, we go to an old age home," he says. "It's free, and I guarantee you will feel great when you leave. You give to people, you learn about these wonderful people who have things to say and things to share. Go help others."
The most important thing is to keep acting as a couple in love. "Marriage is not about just having fun or good feelings when there's good times," Gary says. "It's the decision that we're going to live together and always give and have meaningful, important times for each other no matter what's facing us."
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