After that traumatic event, Peter says he pushed thoughts about his sexuality aside. "I'd get angry because I'd start thinking about it, and I didn't know what to do with it," he says. "I kept trying to push it back."

Fran says Peter began showing signs that something was not right. "He was very controlling," she says. "He was easily threatened if I was spending time with people outside of the relationship. He was even jealous of our dog, when I wanted the dog to be with us. So it became very suffocating."

"I was a mess," Peter says. "I wanted to spend time with her, but I wasn't dealing with what was really happening."

The one place Fran and Peter say there were never problems, however, was in the bedroom. "We had great sex," Peter says.

"We always used to think that we must be having better sex than our friends because he was a very sexual man," Fran says.