In high school, Kim fit in perfectly because, she says, she did everything a teenage boy was expected to do. "I was this perfect guy in some ways, but I was just trying to overcompensate to be successful at this male thing," she says. "I thought it would fix me. I thought it would make this other crazy idea go away."
Paul even dated women and took a girl to the prom. "I think it was a pretty innocent relationship," Kim says. "A lot of times, I wanted to be one of the girls more than to really have a girlfriend." During her high school years, Kim says she felt like she was carrying on a secret life she would take to her grave.
Then, after graduation, Kim enrolled at University of California, Berkeley, which is just across the bay from San Francisco, a city known for its liberal attitude toward homosexual and transgender individuals.