Debra Jay, an addiction specialist, author of Love First: A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction, and former counselor at the Hazelden Treatment Center, says that it's important for Lillian—and all alcoholics—to have a large support system and not just one person.
"I worry you're overconfident," Debra tells Lillian. "I'd like to see some healthy fear and that you reach out. One of the things that's going to happen is you will be so dependent on your husband for your recovery you won't own your own recovery."
Recovery is difficult and Debra says its common for recovering alcoholics to relapse when they're feeling most in control. "You need more support. I would love you to go to a women's AA meeting. Meet some recovering women, women you can call. It's not going to get you when you're feeling really low. It sneaks in when you're feeling really good."