According to John, bystanders react differently in this scenario depending on the race of the couple. "We've tried this with white couples before, and we never heard people say, 'Take it somewhere else,'" he says. "They told the African-American couple, 'Look, this is neither the time nor the place.' In other words, 'It's okay if you beat her in the privacy of your home.'" John also says bystanders are more reluctant to stop when the abuser is African-American.