After dating for four years, Ellen and Portia decided to have a commitment ceremony. "We made the date of August the 16th, and then in that time [leading up to the date], gay marriage became legal in California," Portia says. "So we were about to have the ceremony, and then all of a sudden it was like a gift that it was then legal."
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Portia and Ellen both say that it was important to them to have the official "marriage" title. "The thing about being a gay couple is that in the past you referred to your wife and there was quotation marks around it. There was always that chance that people would kind of snicker about it," Portia says. "Now it's fact. It's law. She's my wife. I get to say that she's my wife, and that's just the way it is."
Ellen says that being married does feel different than dating. "It feels like you're home. There's an anchor. There's a safety," she says. "We are all equal citizens, and we should have the same right that anybody else on this earth has."